A Message

A couple of days ago I received the following anonymous message using the Sarahah service. It has been quite a while since I got one of these but I am really glad I did. I love communicating with friends and such, and I think an anonymous submission allows a degree of freedom that doesn’t exist when identities are known. If you would like to send me an anonymous message the links are at the bottom of this post. Also, if you’d like to read my previous questions and responses (I think there is over 100 at this point) I keep them all on my website on this page. Fair warning, a good deal of them are sex and relationship advice… which I actually love giving, so hit me up with your freaky questions ūüôā


“I don’t know why, but I almost religiously read your blog posts. Why do you fascinate me? I don’t know. Is it because you live the life I secretly wish I could? Sometimes I disagree strongly. Mostly, I agree strongly.”

First off, thank you for reading my¬†ramblings. It feels good to know that I’m not just screaming into the online ether here.

I’m not sure why you read it religiously… isn’t that a weird way to say it? I mean, I get the history behind it but I feel like using the word scientifically would be better. Religiously¬†seems to imply following something out of tradition or because an authority figure tells you to without question. Scientifically would imply that you follow something thoroughly and adjust as needed to improve your life.

Anyway, unnecessary rant.

I am kind of honored that you find me fascinating. I find myself kind of dull most of the time. If you wish to live a life more like mine then I think you should go for it. I am not a unique or special person and my life is something that most people could replicate to some extent. It doesn’t require much money or resources or anything.

Sure, you may have made decisions in the past that may require some modification (like decided to raise a child or get married to someone or buy a house) but overall, my life is easy to replicate. Just be unapologetically yourself and get rid of things/people that don’t serve you.

Does your job suck? Quit.

Do you want to bike across the country? Start peddling.

Do you want to share your kinks and desires and raise your freak flag high? Start a blog… anonymously or stand proudly by who you are.

Interested in trying a drug or pegging or an open relationship or skydiving or sending nudes via Snapchat? Consult with any consenting adults that you need to consult and go for it.

You only live once. If you secretly wish you could live like me then I encourage you to give it a shot. I didn’t become who I am by jumping into everything at once, it was a lot of baby-steps. With each step I saw the world wasn’t as scary as I thought, the risks weren’t as extreme as I imagined, and for every secret desire there is a community of like-minded people who share that desire and would welcome you with open arms. The world would rather hug you than hurt you, and we are in desperate need of people who live unapologetically out loud and true to themselves. Don’t hide, you are beautiful and a gift to society if you live the life you truly want.

But, don’t necessary follow in my footsteps. Like you said, there are things you strongly disagree with me about (I wish I knew what they are, I’d love to hear your thoughts). Embrace those disagreements, analyze them, refine your arguments, test them against your logic and the logic of others. We grow stronger and more independent when we look at someone we respect and love and say “I disagree”.

You are awesome and I’m glad you sent me this message. I hope you are having a wonderful day, week, month, year and life. And I hope you reach out to me again. But mostly, I hope you live your life true to yourself, try new things, and shine brightly.

Wanna stay in touch? Got a question for me? Want to tell me why I’m wrong and are curious how I got everything so backward? Have an idea for a blog post? Drunk and wanna send me a snapchat? Wanna become penpals and send each other letters in the mail about life in general?

Feel free to reach out at any of the ways below while I take a Facebook break!

Email address: pjneiger@gmail.com
Instagram: @peterneiger
Questions:  pneiger.sarahah.com or www.surveymonkey.com/r/XYRDXHH
Snapchat: @pneiger
Also, I wrote a book about a cross-country bicycle ride I did!
‚ÄúWandering Oak: A Rite of Passage‚ÄĚ

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